That I should be able to take some inconveniences voluntarily upon myself, in order to make things easier for others. And I’m not talking about the major things like “oh will I give up my plane seat for a stranger” or redirecting a promotion to someone more deserving than myself, because I don’t often end up in those kind of situations. And I’m not talking about suffering in silence (or self sacrifice, or putting up with shit) either.
But the small daily stuff like if there’s one item left of something, do I need it, or should I leave it for someone else who might need it more? If someone needs my time for assistance that I can give, should I pause what I’m doing and help? If someone I don’t like is being treated unfairly, should I still speak up and defend them? If a friend is speaking ill of an undeserving acquaintance, should I speak up and correct them? If a clearly stressed barista treats me like shit, should I just let it go? If a friend is being snide towards me, and I know it’s due to momentary stress (e.g. illness, divorce, exams) rather than a habitual act of bullying, should I let it slide? Yes, to all of that.
And these things (acts of consideration) may be perfectly clear for other people (although from what I’ve seen, a lot of people claim that these are obvious when asked, and then seem to forget all about them the moment they no longer talk about it), but I’m not inherently above selfishness and the occasional cruelty (especially towards people I don’t like), so I have to put the effort to become better. And The Ones Who Walk Away From Omelas has always made me question the right for someone (e.g. me) to experience wonder, if someone else has to suffer beyond words for it. I don’t think it’s right or humane to withhold kindness and consideration from someone, and being able to handle inconveniences to make someone else’s suffering a bit less, should be expected.
So, that’s a ramble. I hope it made sense.
marlowfication 