what really gets on my last fucking nerve is when someone doesn’t respect the time others have.

If we set a meeting at 12, then we meet at 12. Being late 5 or 10 min is fine (or if something unexpected,eg. had an important call for 30 min), but if you KNEW you’d get to the meeting point at 12:30, THEN SAY IT BEFOREHAND. What is this entitlement that assumes that your friends have nothing better to do than wait for you? A lot of things can be done in 30 minutes, dude. I fucking hate it when ppl are like haha yeah appointment at 12, leaving home at 12:10. Fuck off with that shit.

Or like, you know your friend is waiting for you, but you insist on catching up with a person you met on the street for 15 minutes rather than set a better time for that meeting – like, dude, give at least a fucking warning. Don’t just assume that your friend will wait there especially if SHE HAS A TRAIN SHE NEEDS TO CATCH (yes that’s v specific, guess why).

Or when people msg you like “HEY WE HAVEN’T MET IN A LONG TIME I’ll be available tomorrow or the day after from 1 until 2 – wait, what do you MEAN you can’t meet me?” Like, here’s a fun fact: a lot of people have commitments. SCHEDULED commitments. You wanna hang out? Tell me a week in advance so I know I haven’t scheduled meetings with supervisors or if I have deadlines, I know to take that in account.

The other day a friend of sorts who lives in a neighbouring city called me and was like “hey i’m going to stay overnight at ur place and then the day after we can meet at my place” and like, no regard for how busy I am atm. And then much offense, such surprise when I say no.

Like, you’re not entitled to someone else’s time. You’re not entitled to MY time, especially when I have so many other things I need to do, with deadlines and commitments and what not. And even if I had the extra time, you not caring about being late for 30 minutes just tells me you don’t respect me enough to put the effort into not making me wait for long.

I have my issues, obv, and lack of respect from people who have thought of me as either too dumb or annoying has made me eventually become sensitive about this issue. If I feel like you don’t give me the common courtesy you give other people, I don’t see how a friendship could survive. And how you treat my time is an indicator of that.

/ rant over